Help me, I'm a Child or a Young Person

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If your parents are going through a separation or divorce you will want to know how it will affect you and what you can do about it. The most important thing is not to panic, and to know this is not your fault. Unfortunately there isn't a great deal you can do to help them except to let them know how you feel, if you can, and to ask them to go to family mediation.

In mediation your parents will discuss what life will be like after they separate. That will involve talking about you, where you will live and how much contact you will have with each of them. They may ask you what you think and it is fine to tell them. Try to say the same thing to both of them.

If you find it difficult to talk to your parents at this time, and that is quite common, it is a good idea to find someone else to talk to. A grandparent, a teacher at school or a family friend.

Remember, things will get better. Parents rarely stay angry with each other for ever and mediation will help them move on with their lives as separated parents. They both love you however hard it may be for them to show you that sometimes. Many children grow up with separated parents and you will probably be able to talk to other people your age about their circumstances. Just remember that everyone is different. Make sure you look after yourself and if you find yourself worrying find someone to talk to. Even if it is just a mate!

If you are planning for the future, National Family Mediation can provide the information you might require.

Further Information for Children and Young People

Often, parents will agree to children and young people speaking with a mediator so that they can share their views, opinions, thoughts and feelings relating to the arrangements their parents are making following separation.

Contact your local mediation service to find out how mediation can help you.

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If your parents are separating or divorcing, you probably have a lot of questions about what will happen. Stress during or after your parents' divorce can be overwhelming because there are so many changes to adjust to. That's why it's important to learn to cope, or deal with, that stress. It is important that you ensure that you and any siblings (brothers and sisters) are being looked after and taken care of.

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NFM is a network of professional family mediation providers based in England and Wales that work with families affected by relational breakdown. All providers aim to help clients achieve an outcome that works best for them and their family

If you would like to get more information about mediation and/or make an appointment you can contact NFM direct on 0300 4000 636 or you can also contact a NFM family mediation provider in your area.

All services also take referrals from Solicitors, the court or other helping / support agencies.

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