Assisting Your Children with Disability
As a parent of a disabled child you might be concerned about the impact your separation is having on them. You probably know your child better than most so it is important to keep the lines of communication open with them. They are likely to experience the loss/grief cycle too but depending on their disability, might experience it differently (to a greater or lesser extent) to other children.
The loss/grief cycle has several stages and these are experienced at different times, not necessarily in order and certain stages can last longer than others. Because we are unique human beings, it is difficult to tell exactly what we will feel and when but it is reassuring to know it’s all normal and won’t last forever.
The stages of the cycle are:-
You may already have support services in place for your child and it may be possible to increase these to provide more assistance for your child at this difficult time.
As all children are reassured by routine and parental guidance, you might find this especially important with your child. Trying not to disrupt their routine where possible will help. If you are making longer term decisions about where your child lives, it could be helpful to include your child in the decision making process so that they at least feel consulted.
If you would like help in discussing these important issues, you might find mediation a helpful way forward. In some cases, it might also be possible for the child to meet the mediator and have their say. This can help children to be reassured that what they think does matter.
NFM is a network of professional family mediation providers based in England and Wales that work with families affected by relational breakdown. All providers aim to help clients achieve an outcome that works best for them and their family
If you would like to get more information about mediation and/or make an appointment you can contact NFM direct on 0300 4000 636 or you can also contact a NFM family mediation provider in your area.
All services also take referrals from Solicitors, the court or other helping / support agencies.