Dealing with anger
A natural part of the grief cycle is anger. Whilst everyone will have a different experience of this, you will meet it at some point. It may last for a very short time or quite a long time. You might notice you are suddenly reacting to things in an irrational way or being short-tempered and aggressive. There is often a sense of injustice associated with this angry stage. This might be because you had no part in making the decision to separate, it may be you feel betrayed, it may be you felt you had no choice but to leave. Feelings of guilt can confuse rational thinking too, making it harder to know how you feel.
It is important at this stage not to make long term decisions as you might regret them later. Give yourself the chance to process this new situation before reacting where possible. Try to make temporary arrangements to allow yourself breathing space.
Anger can often precede the process of letting go; trying to redirect your anger by doing practical things can help. It isn’t healthy to bottle it up or express it aggressively. You can express anger in a healthy way by talking to friends or family, using exercise or by talking to a counsellor. Keeping anger bottled up can lead to depression.
You might want to talk things through with a family mediator who can help you decide if you are ready to move things forward. If you are not, they will not push you and may advise you to wait a little longer.
NFM is a network of professional family mediation providers based in England and Wales that work with families affected by relational breakdown. All providers aim to help clients achieve an outcome that works best for them and their family
If you would like to get more information about mediation and/or make an appointment you can contact NFM direct on 0300 4000 636 or you can also contact a NFM family mediation provider in your area.
All services also take referrals from Solicitors, the court or other helping / support agencies.